Friday, November 28, 2008

Holiday Shopping

Happy Black Friday! I've been thinking about how bizarre it is we actually have a consumer-oriented day with a name to represent retail consumption. How strange too that so many special, one-of-a-kind gifts will be purchased at Big Box stores off the rack holding a few dozen exact replicas of same. How strange that the gloom and doom economy collapse prophets seem to think it's a bad thing that endless huge anonymous yet aggressively branded caverns full of utter crap might go out of business. I'm such a contrarian bastard. Every time I see Linens 'N' Things or Joanne or Starbucks going under I get a frisson of glee up my spine.

You know what else is pissing me off lately? The new spell check databases for Gmail, Facebook, certain fora I'm on, and Blogger. I keep typing in completely legitimate words and they keep getting underlined in red. For example, in this post alone, "contrarian" and "fora." Recently, "vampyric," (here too!), "grotesqueries" (here as well) and my preferred spelling of "dialogue," which seems to have been abandoned for the odd-looking "dialog."

Anyway, these words being tagged as unrecognizable is a very bad sign. Part of the general retardifying (take that, spell check!) of culture.

But I digressify. The holidays are upon us. For the past two nights, J and I engaged in enjoyable sessions of culture browsing on You Tube. Eva Cassidy, Janis Joplin, Jimi Hendrix, Don Cherry with James Blood Ulmer and Rashied Ali (and an audience full of stunned and nauseated looking Swedes), The Art Ensemble of Chicago, Country Joe McDonald, Miles Davis on the Steve Allen Show with the second quintet doing All Blues at lightning speed (featuring a brief precious moment where good old happy go lucky Steve Allen asks Davis what he's going to play, can't hear the response and asks someone else to tell him, saying "Miles has laryngitis"), The Kingston Trio, Tom Lehrer (a great bunch of footage of him that I didn't know existed; also didn't know he's still on the planet and 80 years old), Eddie Cochran doing Summertime Blues followed by The Who doing the same at Woodstock 10 years later, Patty Waters (sadly, no actual footage, just some examples of the strange yet oddly touching You Tube practice of posting music with still photographs), Leo Kottke, Michael Hedges, Kate Nash, Kate Bush, an almost unwatchable episode of Disco Teen with special guests The Boxtops, Danny Gatton and his beer bottle slide and towel routine, two absolutely horrifying Michael Jackson videos (Scream and In The Closet), "lame American folkie" Dan Wilcox, an excerpt from the Cecil Taylor documentary All the Notes, a duet between Milford Graves and David Murray from a documentary homage to Albert Ayler, a solo performance of the Mahavishnu Orchestra's Miles Beyond by Dave "Fuze" Fiuczynski , Tori Amos kicking people out of her show ("Get the fuck out of my show! It's a privilege to sit in the front row"), Tom Waits in 1977 doing Tom Traubert's Blues, a very brief snippet of Rod Stewart doing same about 5 octaves higher. There's more, but you get the idea.

So here's a thought. Don't buy a single new thing from now to January 2020. Just take the time to get to know even a little bit about what's already been made. Shop for Xmas gifts at thrift stores and yard sales. Or make your own gifts. Or reconfigure the whole idea of what a gift is in the first place. Gift or curse? For example, well-meaning people have given me a lot of utter crap over the years. I always feel obliged to hold onto it. "I can't throw that away! Someone put a lot of thought into buying that!" Thing is, it's all going to go. I'm paring down. I'm offloading big time. The real precious irreplaceable things, like recordings, books, cacti, that stuff will stay, even though I eye it askance since I can't take it with me and every single time I move (9 times in the past 7 years) I have to lug all of it around, a Laputan comedy. (and go screw yourself, Blogger spell check for not recognizing "Laputan." What a world!)

A few afterthoughts in this Special Director's Cut of the Stochasticactus Release of the post titled Holiday Shopping:

I started thinking about what the best gift one person can give to another is, short of maybe a kidney or dying to save someone else's life. I realized that perhaps the single most dreaded phone call from a friend goes like this: "yeah, so, I'm moving into a new place...think you can come over and help me move?" So perhaps the finest gift of all would be to visit every single friend you have and just start boxing up and removing their worthless crap. *Ahead* of the "hey can you help me move?" phone call. Drug them up if you have to, hypnotize them, whatever it takes. Then just gut their space. Box after box of old sand-filled hand weights, signed baseballs, Roy Orbison records, moldy-boxed board games, bread machines, yard umbrellas, whatever.

And here's a novel way to deal with "gift guilt," that feeling when you get a gift that, darn it all, now you *have* to reciprocate. Just send back the original gift with a little note: "Thank you! I enjoyed this ___________ (sweater, pen, Sigmund Freud action figure, pair of socks, etc.) for a short while and have decided to return it to you. We're all going to die anyway and nothing's permanent! Happy Holidays!"

7 comments:

the unreliable narrator said...

David Wilcox. Get your lame American folkies straight!

I'm sorry about the hand weights, the bread machine, and the yard umbrella. And I know you don't want to buy anything today, but we really need laundry detergent.

Latest Ideas We Don't Have Time or Energy to Pursue:

1) untimed, unmonitored, but video-recorded Bösendorfer-sponsored "interview"/"conversation" between Böse lunatics Tori Amos and Cecil Taylor;

2) blog about woeful-looking, discarded plastic shopping bags (either sadbags.blogspot.com or americanbaggie.blogspot.com);

3) feature-length documentary film consisting entirely of the escapes of Mambo, the little dog down the street, and his owners' attempts to catch him, which happens approximately twice a week;

4) critical study of DFW called Which, Thanks Anyway;

5) team blog in which we list all the ideas we have but never seem to have time/energy to create, much less list on a team blog.

Patrick Lewis said...

I heard someone say in a "meeting" that happiness is not found in the things you don't have but in wanting what you do have.

Clearly this smart sonnovabitch hasn't looked at the mountains of crap the seem to spill out of every closet, cranny, nook, and cupboard the occupies my house.

When I left for the great books college I had a suitcase and a guitar and a stereo box and I had everything in the world I could have possibly wanted, when we, she and I now married, then left 8 years later we had two cars crammed with stuff, and a uhaul and this after discarding all of the unwanted junk we could live without.

How time will change!

I don't think too much about how my wants and needs have changed over the years, how the stuff accumulates because of these subtle shifts of personality, and how really even a suitcase was probably too much stuff to haul around when I was a wee lad of 18, but i do think a lot about being gentle with myself and patient with myself and realize that even though I probably don't want anything else in the world (except. perhaps. for some new vial of foamy shaving cream that smells of sandalwood), and none of my family doesn't want too much either, we wont begrudge each other, or ourselves if we indulge just a bit this holiday season

Happy Black Friday!

jenzai studio said...

oh thank you! I finally have a word for what has happened to me. (Is retardification reversible I wonder? I hope the process doesn't involve purging all of my stuff. My STUFF! Alas, I love my stuff.)

Anonymous said...

Do NOT throw away my painted glass that I know you still carry faithfully with you or my drawing table, ragged as it was...those were not Xmas gifts simply handed off to you for storage and I will gladly now retrieve them...when are you coming through SF anyway?

My computer has swallowed your email address again, bastard, and I cannot find any other way to contact you. A mutual friend of ours is currently in Mexico getting married and you and I must talk in more detail about this event (I am getting even with him because the creep didn't tell me he was doing this). So being true to the Scorpio nature I wish to expound in more detail of his antics, hear about yours and chastise you for not writing more. By the way, Happy Belated Birthday. You owe me the same.
Write me immediately as I am Jonesing for some finely tuned Breslin sarcasm.

Besos,

Pasha's mom.

MareEars said...

I'm with you on the spellcheck anger.

And on the gifting. If it ain't a baked good, it's going to be made of either papier-mache, or old pine needles n' spit.

::sigh::

best,
jlist paula

the unreliable narrator said...

Oooh oooh, *I* want old pine needles and spit!!!

peter breslin said...

Hey L! How did you manage to lose my email address? never mind...I managed to lose your (current) one as well. What happened to the Sereniph?

Email me at hegelskitchen at gmail dot com.

I still have your painted glass. But you never gave me a table, I swear.

I did get a new email addy for Mr. Art, so maybe if I email him he'll know how to contact you....

anyway, blessings,

P